Title: You
Tags: Love people relationships
Blog Entry: Stop "shoulding" on yourself! My friend yells that whenever she catches a whiff of someone doing something just because they think they should. I know what she is saying. I used to "should" on myself quite a bit and I am still guilty of it from time to time. Rather than focusing on my needs or my dreams, I put my energy into doing what I thought I should do: what was "right" to make my relationships work, please my family, win acceptance from my peers, get into the right college, and get the job that provided the most security. Because my heart wasn't in my choices, life situations seldom worked out. I was miserable in school then chronically late when I started work for awhile. My relationship with my boyfriend failed, and I became more and more unsure of who really were my friends. I finally hit bottom when I became sick with depression. Exhausted, lonely and depressed, I staggered around in a stupor for weeks. Then one day at my parents house, I noticed a small blue book that had fallen from a shelf: Heal your Body. It changed me forever. the book explains the importance pf accepting and loving yourself-- of making decisions because you want to do something, regardless of what others might think. She recommends that you say, " I love and approve of myself." Everyday. Hundreds of times. At the time her suggestion seemed silly. But at the point of where I was, I was willing to try anything that would make me happy again. So each time I started thinking about how others might view what I was doing, I would stop and say, " I love and approve of myself.' Amazingly, by the end of the first day, I felt better than I had in years, emotionally and physically. Soon I became stronger and more grounded than I ever had been. I had energy, I was buoyant with hope, and I lit up with this firecracker of truth that I'll share with you: Happiness is a choice, and you are the one who's responsible for it-- not some boyfriend, spouse, family, or friends. YOU! As long as you keep in mind the importance and value of you, you will handle anything that the world throws your way. You will succeed because of the power, the spirit, and the vision of you.....
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